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Remember being at my daughter's soccer game. My daughter and a Korean girl were chasing a ball, but it was too far in front of them and it went out of bounds. The Korean girl's mother, who is standing next to me, yells at her daughter, "you try harder. You embarrass whole family."
The girls were about 5.
I remember thinking, "holy . What a great way to give a kid a complex."
Of the hundreds of asians I've met in my life, in school, work, and play, I've met very few who have a very high self confidence level. Lots of high achievers, but few grab the bull by the horns type.
Is it the moms? Or the genes?
If anything (at least for first generation Chinese parents) most Chinese parents push excellence in education and music while discouraging their kids from pursuing athletics. Chinese people have some interesting concepts about which careers are honorable and which ones are viewed as less respectable. Acting and athletics are considered at the bottom. These activities are also seen as distractions which take focus away from academics.
This makes Lin's achievements even more remarkable. He has achieved top academic achievement (which I'm sure his parents pushed) while also reaching the highest level of athletics (which is probably more where his heart is). Most children of foreign-born Chinese parents have to sacrifice their own interests in order to live up to their parents' expectations.
I can tell you from first hand experience. My wife has zero interest in my daughter's athletic achievements but is very concerned with her school work. She thinks sports are a major waste of time. If my daughter made-millions playing professional sports yet failed to get an MBA, my wife would be very disappointed. American culture is much more sports focused. Lin has managed to achieve an amazing balance.