OT: Connecticut College

[Fishy]

Been to the campus. I like the place a lot. Really good school and right near the Rhode Island beaches.

Right near Capt. Scott’s….my wife and I are ditching the parents’ reception and getting a lobster roll.

 

[Zanzman]

Move in day for Conn College freshmen is next Wednesday.

Move in starts at 8 am sharp - the rest of the day is very structured. We have meetings with her, without her, she has meetings without us, etc. Not even sure how we’re going to get everything moved in given how packed the schedule is.

But at 5:30, it’s over. She has meetings and social activities that start at 5:30 and run until midnight that night and then continue until Sunday. (The sophs and upperclassmen arrive Monday.)

Parents can hit a reception on the green at 5:30 or they can head home, but the schools is adamant that after 5:30 on Wednesday, parents have to leave their kids alone and get out of Dodge.

I have to imagine that some helicopter around for a while…

Same with my son going to Gettysburg except they seperate us closer to 1:00

 

[8893]

Parents can hit a reception on the green at 5:30 or they can head home, but the schools is adamant that after 5:30 on Wednesday, parents have to leave their kids alone and get out of Dodge.

Same with my son going to Gettysburg except they seperate us closer to 1:00

I remember this moment very well. Almost five years ago for our oldest, but feels like yesterday (although the pictures say otherwise).

Don't blink.

Is it getting dusty in here?

 

[dennismenace]

I had a side piece at Conn College when I was in my mid 20s, sigh, Betsy..

(This was not 1957)

I have not met anyone named Betsy since

Davy Crockett's "Old Betsy"

 

[HooperScooper]

Move in day for Conn College freshmen is next Wednesday.

Move in starts at 8 am sharp - the rest of the day is very structured. We have meetings with her, without her, she has meetings without us, etc. Not even sure how we’re going to get everything moved in given how packed the schedule is.

But at 5:30, it’s over. She has meetings and social activities that start at 5:30 and run until midnight that night and then continue until Sunday. (The sophs and upperclassmen arrive Monday.)

Parents can hit a reception on the green at 5:30 or they can head home, but the schools is adamant that after 5:30 on Wednesday, parents have to leave their kids alone and get out of Dodge.

I have to imagine that some helicopter around for a while…

My younger son started college in 2020. Because of Covid we were given a 2 hour window to move him in and then hit the road. It was a little strange but since he was the 2nd child, and he was also very familiar with Hamilton because his brother just graduated from there, it was fine.

Of course then we got the calls about how bored he was because of the very strict Covid rules Hamilton had - no activities (no sports, no clubs, nothing!), couldn't go into other dorms, 2 of his 4 classes were online, etc. But within a week he met a bunch of kids in his dorm on other floors who he had a lot in common with and he was off and running. And then he never returned our calls or texts. Funny how that works. He's very excited that the school has relaxed all Covid rules this semester and he's hoping to finally have a completely normal college experience without any restrictions. Be glad your daughter didn't start college in 2020.

 

[uconndogs]

I think once you drop them off the ground work has either been laid for success.......or it hasn't. Being there for them when they need you is important, but you can't expect to hover successfully. My opinion anyway.

We dropped our oldest off for his freshman year at a good engineering school. He was really comfortable there and had a couple of high school buddies there as well. A week out he calls us to let us know all is going great - he joined the rugby team and was pledging a fraternity. I told my wife not to rush to write the check for the following semester. He graduated in four years and had a great time. Not that I ever had any doubts

 

[zls44]

Right near Capt. Scott’s….my wife and I are ditching the parents’ reception and getting a lobster roll.

I enjoy that folks think you'll be emotional at 5:30, when in reality, you'll be tying the lobster bib on as you get in the car.

 

[pepband99]

I think once you drop them off the ground work has either been laid for success.......or it hasn't. Being there for them when they need you is important, but you can't expect to hover successfully. My opinion anyway.

We dropped our oldest off for his freshman year at a good engineering school. He was really comfortable there and had a couple of high school buddies there as well. A week out he calls us to let us know all is going great - he joined the rugby team and was pledging a fraternity. I told my wife not to rush to write the check for the following semester. He graduated in four years and had a great time. Not that I ever had any doubts

thanks for this. Just dropped my oldest off in Blacksburg for his 1st semester, so this hits close. I agree with your first sentence too - i'll miss him, but he's ready, and I'm more excited for what's next for him, than i am sad.

 

[UConnRock]

Rice had the best drop off. Had to be out of the room by 11:00. Kids go to intro sessions w/ student coordinators and parents meet the adults in charge of the residential colleges then hit the road. No time for emotion.

 

[BigTenFan]

thanks for this. Just dropped my oldest off in Blacksburg for his 1st semester, so this hits close. I agree with your first sentence too - i'll miss him, but he's ready, and I'm more excited for what's next for him, than i am sad.

My youngest son looking at VT-Any initial impressions?

 

[8893]

Rice had the best drop off. Had to be out of the room by 11:00. Kids go to intro sessions w/ student coordinators and parents meet the adults in charge of the residential colleges then hit the road Gingerman. No time for emotion.

Fify

 

[pepband99]

My youngest son looking at VT-Any initial impressions?

It's a gorgeous campus - puts most others to shame, IMHO.

I really see it as a 2x UConn, with a STEM bent, and more picturesque.

 

[Fishy]

I enjoy that folks think you'll be emotional at 5:30, when in reality, you'll be tying the lobster bib on as you get in the car.

The three of us went to dinner the other night and my wife says that she wants to book a vacation for the week after we drop the kid off at college because “dad will be upset and I want to take his mind off of it.”

My daughter points to me and asks, “Do you even know him?”

 

[8893]

The three of us went to dinner the other night and my wife says that she wants to book a vacation for the week after we drop the kid off at college because “dad will be upset and I want to take his mind off of it.”

Which, in all likelihood, means that your wife is projecting.

Like when my wife says that the music is hurting the dogs' ears, or that my driving is making the kids sick.

For decades I have responded to these comments with "Doggie needs a soda, too, right?"

Or, your wife may just want a vacation.

 

[HuskyHawk]

The three of us went to dinner the other night and my wife says that she wants to book a vacation for the week after we drop the kid off at college because “dad will be upset and I want to take his mind off of it.”

My daughter points to me and asks, “Do you even know him?”

Which, in all likelihood, means that your wife is projecting.

Like when my wife says that the music is hurting the dogs' ears, or that my driving is making the kids sick.

For decades I have responded to these comments with "Doggie needs a soda, too, right?"

Or, your wife may just want a vacation.

Honestly, we did the same. Not because anyone would be upset, but because we were finally not chained by the K-12 school year. Suddenly we could take a week in late September or October. Another couple we are friends with who's youngest is one year ahead of our daughter had been waiting for our liberation so we could go on trips together.

 

[BigTenFan]

It's a gorgeous campus - puts most others to shame, IMHO.

I really see it as a 2x UConn, with a STEM bent, and more picturesque.

Thanks- I haven't seen the campus. My older son at Purdue so it's between those two for Engineering

 

[8893]

Honestly, we did the same. Not because anyone would be upset, but because we were finally not chained by the K-12 school year. Suddenly we could take a week in late September or October. Another couple we are friends with who's youngest is one year ahead of our daughter had been waiting for our liberation so we could go on trips together.

Oh you don't have to sell me. My wife and I have two vacations planned in late September/October and our youngest daughter is still in high school. It's funny because the daughter is like "Wait, what? Why are you guys going on vacations without me all of a sudden?"

 

[Fishy]

Honestly, we did the same. Not because anyone would be upset, but because we were finally not chained by the K-12 school year. Suddenly we could take a week in late September or October. Another couple we are friends with who's youngest is one year ahead of our daughter had been waiting for our liberation so we could go on trips together.

My wife is a speech path in a school…we’re still chained.

 

[beerfan]

Right near Capt. Scott’s….my wife and I are ditching the parents’ reception and getting a lobster roll.

CC does a good job feeding you at these receptions if you want to save yourself $100

 

[HooperScooper]

CC does a good job feeding you at these receptions if you want to save yourself $100

He's paying $70,000 a year for tuition, room and board. What's another $100?

 

[8893]

He's paying $70,000 a year for tuition, room and board. What's another $100?

I don't even know him, but I know he would gladly pay $100 to avoid speaking with other people.

Oh, and the daughter earned an almost 50% merit scholarship from what I recall, so make that around $40,000 a year.

 

[Umami Zen]

House gets a little more quiet once the last one leaves

 

[CL82]

House gets a little more quiet once the last one leaves

You say that like it’s a bad thing.

 

[HooperScooper]

House gets a little more quiet once the last one leaves

Yup. It's good and bad. But I have to say I do miss having them home. It was 3 against 1 for the rights to sports on the TV in the family room. Now it's 1 v 1! Lol

 

[uconnfan68]

The three of us went to dinner the other night and my wife says that she wants to book a vacation for the week after we drop the kid off at college because “dad will be upset and I want to take his mind off of it.”

My daughter points to me and asks, “Do you even know him?”

Sounds like your daughter is more than ready to be on her own.

 

[Umami Zen]

You say that like it’s a bad thing.

Depends

 

[Fishy]

I don't even know him, but I know he would gladly pay $100 to avoid speaking with other people.

Oh, and the daughter earned an almost 50% merit scholarship from what I recall, so make that around $40,000 a year.

I will be well-past the point of wanting to make small talk at that point…actually thinking of going to Lobster Landing instead. It’s a few steps closer to home.

House gets a little more quiet once the last one leaves

The first one is also the last one. It will take some getting used to.

 

[superjohn]

I will be well-past the point of wanting to make small talk at that point…actually thinking of going to Lobster Landing instead. It’s a few steps closer to home.



The first one is also the last one. It will take some getting used to.

No way on the lobster roll. You'll find some red sauce joint that does a spaghetti and meatball right and a veal /chicken parm right and you'll go there for the next 4 years.

 

[Umami Zen]

I will be well-past the point of wanting to make small talk at that point…actually thinking of going to Lobster Landing instead. It’s a few steps closer to home.



The first one is also the last one. It will take some getting used to.

Same for us.. Difference in our respective situations was/is proximity of the college to the homestead.. Our son went off to Colorado from Ct..(app. 2,000 miles away).. Our visits were obviously limited during his college career. Met a Colorado native at school --got married-- and stayed to raise their family.

One of the toughest challenges that a parent has is when their kids leave the "nest".. She will be fine and you and Mrs Fishy will be fine.. Part of the Circle of Life..

 

[husky8273]

Same for us.. Difference in our respective situations was/is proximity of the college to the homestead.. Our son went off to Colorado from Ct..(app. 2,000 miles away).. Our visits were obviously limited during his college career. Met a Colorado native at school --got married-- and stayed to raise their family.

One of the toughest challenges that a parent has is when their kids leave the "nest".. She will be fine and you and Mrs Fishy will be fine.. Part of the Circle of Life..

having your children settle thousands of miles away after college poses another challenge when visits only occur a few times a year or less