I spent years helping my kids build confidence in themselves, on and off the court and the playing fields. They were very successful athletes in high school... to the point where they believed they were good enough to play bball, lacrosse and football at ranked division 1 powerhouses. They were darn good and incredibly hard workers, but everything is relative, and they were simply not talented enough to play up at that level (my opinion was supported by coaches I spoke with.)
A lack of size, uber talent or quickness can be compensated for in high school, in large part, by out-working, out-hustling and out-conditioning the other guy/gal. When it came to effort and determination, my kids took a backseat to no one (just like Kyla!) It killed me to tell them to scale down their dreams, be more 'realistic.'
It was really difficult (and personally painful) to convince them, but they eventually understood.
And they chose schools where they were able to succeed in sports and in the classroom.
Coaches make mistakes in evaluating talent; kids make mistakes in choosing schools. It happens.
Lexi is a great kid, and I wish her all the success in the world. I believe if she and her parents evaluate her situation objectively, they'll find a better fit for Lexi than UConn. She deserves nothing less.