My friend, I am still failing at expressing this clearly. When you create these high public standards - it becomes more difficult to go through a divorce where all your failings compared to your personal expectations of yourself collide.
Exactly. The evidence is there he's made adjustments given the personnel he's had and the capabilities of his players.
I thought it was you!
I'm unsure if that is a compliment or an insult. But the short answer is no!I thought it was you!
OK! This makes sense. Divorces are rarely easy. But if someone puts pressure on themselves to be a public model, when that image is perceived to be destroyed, the impacts are greater for those who have put more pressure on themselves to maintain that image.
Just a joke. Jeff actually came to the forum using his own name. I hit him hard on his write ups over certain things and he took the time to respond to me. Didn't change my opinion about his conclusions, but it was a class act to take the time and reply to me.
I think we have a great coach as well. I think his motivation for his leadership is very high as well. When you say "If they think he doesn't love them, then a demanding coach becomes tiresome, the players will get demoralized and look elsewhere. Ollie needs to make sure his actions live out his beliefs" it presupposes that his players are "10 toes in as well". I suspect that the failure lies, for the most part, in the players who left not living up to their end of the bargain. I think Calhoun also got across his "love" message as a "tough love message" from the get go. I recall sometime ago reading about a player who comforted a teammate after an epic rant by JC as "don't take it personally, he does that because he just really wants you to do well". In the military, the leaders will tell you take everything they say about training as extremely important because your life and the life of your brothers depends on it. And they take their responsibility very seriously. They've been there and seen it in action. They will say that "I can use positive motivation or negative motivation but in the end I am going to get my way". You have to buy into that in your head in order to put your heart into it. It is not about "feelings." A mother gets up in the middle of the night to feed a hungry baby even though she doesn't "feel" like it. Running away from a demanding situation is not going to make someone in a better position necessarily. To each his own. Choices have consequences.
Quite frankly, many things I say are not popular and get shot down by conventional wisdom at the time - but then they happened. .. but people don't go back and like my old posts predicting what will happen. But, seriously it's never been a metric I care about. I like the exchange of ideas, opinions and information. It may be a surprise to the casual fan but Chief learns a lot reading this forum.
You read it that way because you wanted to read it that way, the reference to Giffey was already addressed in the Amore article.
Gotta respect that.
Your wife is smarter than you or I. What couple survives 13 years of the NBA then fails? It is amazing.
Probably the decision to bring KO's mom to CT, whose health was failing, had a lot of impact. No matter what the cause, I subscribe to the position that the impact had to be tough for KO. And is it a coincidence that he has a deja vu this postseason - that is getting blind sided by players he thought would stay leaving?
Complicated and besides you can only have one boss. Calhoun is going to be loyal to his ex players - that's why they all love him. Benedict's guidance is going to be sometimes in conflict with that. I can tell you it's often a no win for KO - while JC is loyal to Miller - my guess is the departure from man to man drive him crazy. That's a culture thing beyond X's and O's - so this season we broke the culture. Injuries etc as JC said in a recent quite are no excuse. It would have been better for Enoch to play through that.
JC and any UConn basketball fan doesn't care if we play man to man, zone, or a junk defense. As long as we implement it well and we win.
It was a conscious decision on his part. He was the leader of the anti Dyson faction in this forum and had a huge following of supporters. He continued it for years following Dyson's departure, initially took heat from BigErn primarily but as time went on a lot of posters hit him for his stance.
Good to know you can express yourself religiously KO!
He's referring to this statement you made:
TL;DR Ollie holds himself to high expectations both publicly and privately so the divorce embarrassed him to himself and his friends causing him to just drift away from people? Am I getting that right?
The soap opera began with the op emphasizing something and the next two or three posts conjecturing about it.
