You will not find one instance of me posting on this topic "as if it was fact". I have gone out of my way to point out that I acknowledge my suspicions are purely speculation. I am sensitive to this criticism because it is my one of my pet peeves when other people do it, and they do it a lot on here.
To the second half of your first sentence, I'm guessing you're exactly right. This whole time, I've been thinking to myself, "Jeez, these people are reacting as if I just said their wives are whores." I guess that's how my speculation was received.
I'd argue my claim was more along the lines of, "This looks like a case of our wives speeding, so let's make sure not to get all high and mighty next time we find out about Mrs. Boeheim speeding." But whatevs.