Can you expand on the "things they do not want hear part". I'm trying to assess blame here.

If the things that Brenda is telling them are the right things like you are not working hard enough or player X (i.e., Not You) gives us the best option to win then I blame the kids.
I watched Maryland live 2 games this season and was baffled by the lack of consistency from all the players.
There was never a good group that played well together for an extended period of time. There were times when Miller, Owusu, Masonius looked like the best 3 players on the floor and the POY candidate Charles looked lost and invisible. Watson was especially baffling-here Freshman swag was completely gone.