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With a heavy heart, I want to share with my Boneyard family that Patriarch of the DM family passed away this morning. He was a World War II vet who would have turned 93 this coming August. My daughter, son and I were schedule to visit him in Montgomery AL at the end of the month. He lived a long a happy life. We had thought we lost him about 6 weeks ago, but he bounced back like one of our great UConn point guards, and actually played golf a couple times before he went into the hospital again. Team DogNabbit, the two time Boneyard Classic champions, thanks partly to my high handicap, ;) would have been proud to have him on our team. Even in his 90s, I'm pretty sure I still would not have been able to beat him. By the way, he too was a writer, for those wondering where my propensity for long posts comes from.

I was afraid that he was going to pass away yesterday, the same day we received the wonderful news that Sterling Gibbs chose UConn for his 5th and final year. I didn't want to cast any sadness to what was a happy day for Husky Nation. Since I knew what was looming, it did understandably take some of the joy personally out of the Gibbs' news.

One quick story that I felt might bring a smile to some since we all have dads and hopeful fond memories: Many years ago back when I was a teenager, I walked into the house holding this long aluminum handle and proceeded to tell my Dad that the rest of the roof rake was stuck on the roof and that bolt and wing nut that held it to the other end were missing somewhere in the deep snow. Somewhat angry he said, "You should have made sure the wing nut was tightened!" I then asked him, "Well how did you know that?" He paused and then replied, "Because the same thing happened to me!" We both began to laugh, realizing how funny that whole situation and conversation went down.

Like all Dads, he wasn't perfect. But he was a good husband to my mom, and after she passed, to his current widow, a good dad, and a very good man. He will be missed.

Anyhow, I wanted to share this news with my fellow Boneyard friends. Similar to family where you share happy and sad times, don't always get along, though usually do, the Boneyard is like a second family to many of us. My immediate family and most of my extended family aren't UConn fans, so it's here where I go to share my thoughts, feelings, impeccably accurate analysis :rolleyes:, and rare but occasional crow eating, the few times I'm...gulp...well...wrong, when it comes to all things UConn Hoops.

I'm now looking forward to the 2015/16 team raise up banner #5 on the walls of HGP to turn the page on what was a challenging year for our team and household, and to a new one filled with great celebration. Okay, 2015 wasn't all that bad. The Pats, who are my and my Dad's team, took the air out of other NFL teams by becoming XLIX Super Bowl champs. Don't anyone dare add a negative Pats' deflategate reply to this thread! This one is all about my dad. Yeah, that's a low blow for those Patriot Haters, but deal!! :D
With a heavy heart, I want to share with my Boneyard family that Patriarch of the DM family passed away this morning. He was a World War II vet who would have turned 93 this coming August. My daughter, son and I were schedule to visit him in Montgomery AL at the end of the month. He lived a long a happy life. We had thought we lost him about 6 weeks ago, but he bounced back like one of our great UConn point guards, and actually played golf a couple times before he went into the hospital again. Team DogNabbit, the two time Boneyard Classic champions, thanks partly to my high handicap, ;) would have been proud to have him on our team. Even in his 90s, I'm pretty sure I still would not have been able to beat him. By the way, he too was a writer, for those wondering where my propensity for long posts comes from.

I was afraid that he was going to pass away yesterday, the same day we received the wonderful news that Sterling Gibbs chose UConn for his 5th and final year. I didn't want to cast any sadness to what was a happy day for Husky Nation. Since I knew what was looming, it did understandably take some of the joy personally out of the Gibbs' news.

One quick story that I felt might bring a smile to some since we all have dads and hopeful fond memories: Many years ago back when I was a teenager, I walked into the house holding this long aluminum handle and proceeded to tell my Dad that the rest of the roof rake was stuck on the roof and that bolt and wing nut that held it to the other end were missing somewhere in the deep snow. Somewhat angry he said, "You should have made sure the wing nut was tightened!" I then asked him, "Well how did you know that?" He paused and then replied, "Because the same thing happened to me!" We both began to laugh, realizing how funny that whole situation and conversation went down.

Like all Dads, he wasn't perfect. But he was a good husband to my mom, and after she passed, to his current widow, a good dad, and a very good man. He will be missed.

Anyhow, I wanted to share this news with my fellow Boneyard friends. Similar to family where you share happy and sad times, don't always get along, though usually do, the Boneyard is like a second family to many of us. My immediate family and most of my extended family aren't UConn fans, so it's here where I go to share my thoughts, feelings, impeccably accurate analysis :rolleyes:, and rare but occasional crow eating, the few times I'm...gulp...well...wrong, when it comes to all things UConn Hoops.

I'm now looking forward to the 2015/16 team raise up banner #5 on the walls of HGP to turn the page on what was a challenging year for our team and household, and to a new one filled with great celebration. Okay, 2015 wasn't all that bad. The Pats, who are my and my Dad's team, took the air out of other NFL teams by becoming XLIX Super Bowl champs. Don't anyone dare add a negative Pats' deflategate reply to this thread! This one is all about my dad. Yeah, that's a low blow for those Patriot Haters, but deal!! :D
 
Lost my dad in 92 and my Mom this year. After we beat Duke in 99 I went outside and looked up at the stars and said "we did it Dad, thanks". The first 2 years passing all the holidays and milestones were tough. The finality of it all. Sorry DM. He will walk along with you now.
 
I'm very sorry for your loss and I wish there was something I could say that would be of comfort, but I know mere words won't do much at a time like this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers and whenever we hoist up the banner for title #5, know he'll be watching and smiling.
 
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Lost my dad in 92 and my Mom this year. After we beat Duke in 99 I went outside and looked up at the stars and said "we did it Dad, thanks". The first 2 years passing all the holidays and milestones were tough. The finality of it all. Sorry DM. He will walk along with you now.
Thank you all for your kind words. Sorry that I can't respond to each one individually. I'm going to head outside to do a little yard work. Knowing my Dad lived a long and relatively healthy and full life and having that scare 6 weeks ago, sort of took the sting out of this. I feel I can more celebrate his life than morn his loss, if that makes sense.

I'll check back later and then make all of you have to read every word of my 2015/16 preseason team and player by player analysis, expecting everyone of you to reply with something other than how long my post was. :) Just in case you weren't sure, I am kidding! Though expect that post sometime between now and the beginning of next season. Which at that time, I'll gladly read your humorous attempts about the length of my War and Peace masterpieces where I'll muster up a laugh or two. ;)

I lost my mother a year and a half ago, we are finally getting to the end of estate settlement. She was 96; I still miss her. She was a great lady. I don't toss around the word great. I just mention this because even though the people we love have lived a long and happy life, and they left this mortal coil with few or no regrets; they are still deeply missed. I try and remember something special about her as often as I can
That helps.

Good wishes and my prayers for you and your family.
 
Lost my dad in 92 and my Mom this year. After we beat Duke in 99 I went outside and looked up at the stars and said "we did it Dad, thanks". The first 2 years passing all the holidays and milestones were tough. The finality of it all. Sorry DM. He will walk along with you now.

Lost my dad in '92 also and had the same feelings after Duke. How about those dreams to this day where you are actually with him only to wake to only the memory. We will always have those for the one's we love.

Feel for DM
 
We are all one dysfunctional family here but we definitely are saddened when a fellow BY loses a relative or someone special. Sorry for your loss.
 
DM, It was just three weeks ago that we lost Dribbles, and now he has your Dad with him to go over the plays to be made by the men and women. Dribbles always studied WWII, saying that the men who served and women too, were the most important people in this land. They earned the respect from all, through Depression, War and making America the # 1 country in the world. When Dribbles was ill I had to share with this group. You help me survive and DM they will help you also. This is one great group of supporters for all and I want to thank you all. DM my condolences to you and all your family. Peace be with you. GO HUSKIES! Mrs. Dribbles
 
Sounds like you, your. Family, and the country lost a heck of a man. As an American, I am very sorry for our loss.
 
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I send my deepest condolences to you and your family. Sounds like he was a great man, I have the utmost respect for those WW 2 veterans, we should all aspire to live like those men and women lived. Its a sad time also a celebration of a great life.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss . Just lost my dad in September...got the call while sitting at the Rent after kickoff- we did win the game. I was finally able to make myself go to another game later in the season and we won again...must've been divine intervention. My dad was a lifelong uconn fan and called me after every championship and i'll always miss that...be well and take care!
 
Stu... What a wonderful tribute to your Dad. You have my sincerest condolences on your loss.
Thanks for the kind words and condolences, Joyce. I hope all is going well with you.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss . Just lost my dad in September...got the call while sitting at the Rent after kickoff- we did win the game. I was finally able to make myself go to another game later in the season and we won again...must've been divine intervention. My dad was a lifelong uconn fan and called me after every championship and i'll always miss that...be well and take care!
So sorry to hear about your loss as well Huskiemaniac, and thank you for the kind words. I'm sure your dad would want you to root for our Huskies as fervently as you had when he was around.
 
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DM, It was just three weeks ago that we lost Dribbles, and now he has your Dad with him to go over the plays to be made by the men and women. Dribbles always studied WWII, saying that the men who served and women too, were the most important people in this land. They earned the respect from all, through Depression, War and making America the # 1 country in the world. When Dribbles was ill I had to share with this group. You help me survive and DM they will help you also. This is one great group of supporters for all and I want to thank you all. DM my condolences to you and all your family. Peace be with you. GO HUSKIES! Mrs. Dribbles
Hi Mrs. Dribbles. I remember the heart felt thread about the loss of your husband. I can't thank you and the others enough for appreciating my dad's service during WWII. I can't tell you how proud I am for all who serve and have served in our country's military branches. I remember a song from many years ago that went, "Freedom is never cheap just because it's free!" The freedom we're all enjoying now, was purchased at a heavy price throughout the ages by brave men and women who put their lives in harms way. I feel I took for granted the sacrifice that my dad made for me and all of us. If my memory serves me, something came up on his physical that they would have rejected him from serving, I think they thought he had a perforated eardrum, but when he continued his screening he didn't bring it up and they enlisted him. How many young people of our generation would do that or take the out in a heartbeat if presented such. The men and women of the 30s and 40s were brave SOBs. Good thing, since we needed everyone of them to beat the **t out of those Nazis.
 
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DM, you have my condolences as well. He sounds like he was a good dad and a good guy. You are in my thoughts.
 
I am so very sorry to hear that. Your entire family will be in our prayers.
Thanks, C-Dog. How is everything going with you and your family. If my memory serves me, you've gone through your share of adversity. How's your son doing of late. Wasn't he dealing with seizures at one point. I seem to remember that eventually going away, but maybe I got that wrong. I still remember the time we visited you down in FL. Boy that was a long time ago.
 
Losing a parent is an incredibly difficult experience. The feeling of emptiness never really goes away, but that hole gets filled with good memories in time. This post made me think of mother and smile. She was a UCONN fan.

My best to you and your family DM.
 
Again, I wish I could reply to each one of you. It's been really uplifting reading the replies from both BY friends I've known for many years and others whom I have never met, but enjoyed talking husky hoops. This forum provides a wonderful escape from the day to day battles we all face, may it be discussing Xs & Os, best food in CT (still got a chuckle over the vending machine one :rolleyes: ), the woes of not being in a P5 Conference, recruiting roller-coaster that runs the gamut from highly disappointing (all the swings and misses with the 2015 recruits) to can it get any better (adding of Miller & Gibbs), and how much he hate Dook & Kensucky. We all have our bad days, but there are few on the Boneyard...well except after we lose or miss out on a recruit and the Debbi-Downers can't help themselves.

Anyhow, thank you all for picking me up during this sad time. I really mean it when I say how encouraged I am during and after reading this thread. I hope others who experience any kind of loss, don't hesitate to share it with this unique online family. Many need more than those close to them for strength, hope and encouragement. Of course I hold strongly to my faith in Jesus who provides a comfort like no other. I don't mean to alienate anyone with that statement, and I always respect all who find comfort in their own personal faith in whatever form it might take.
 
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I have never felt the joy of having a dad and will never the feel the pain of losing him. I sympathize with you and your family.
 
Losing a parent is an incredibly difficult experience. The feeling of emptiness never really goes away, but that hole gets filled with good memories in time. This post made me think of mother and smile. She was a UCONN fan.

My best to you and your family DM.
I really love the UConn connection that you and others had with your moms and dads. My family is not from CT, but like many of you, I remember sitting with my dad watching the Sox, Pats, Bruins and Cs, back in our Waltham home. Unfortunately, there were a lot of heartbreaks, sans the Celtics. The Boston sports prosperity over the past decade or so, has taken place after I left home and my Dad moved down to FL and after that Montgomery AL. One blessing in disguise is that I was out of the country living in Spain when the Sox lost to the Mets in such an inglorious way back in 86...was it?...but I was back home and able to call my Dad when the SOX won the World Series after 86 years of futility. Can you imagine, being someone like my Dad and some of your parents who were born in the 20s, to have rooted for a team for 80 plus years, many who never saw their team win a championship? I remember being excited for my Dad to have lived long enough to see them win it all, and then they did it 2 other times since. And I thought my 44 year wait was insufferable. The young pups of this generation get antsy when their team doesn't win it after a couple years or so. Seeing how much a sports fan my dad was, it brings a smile to my face that he got to see all his teams win multiple championships in his lifetime How few get to experience that. I'm guessing outside of Boston, NY. and Chicago (except if your a Cubs fan) fans, few have. Hum...I guess if you got some good tread on your tires and you're from Pittsburgh you witnessed all 4 teams (Penguins, Steelers, Pirates...oh, they don't have a professional hoops, do they and Pitt ain't winning a championship anytime soon. I'm sure there's another city or region that has had success with all 4 pro teams, but none have enjoyed the success that Greater Boston & NE has experiences, especially for us Boston & UConn fans.
 
I have never felt the joy of having a dad and will never the feel the pain of losing him. I sympathize with you and your family.
Sorry to hear that, Dove. I'm sure there are others in your life that are special that I hope you enjoy every moment you can spend with them.
 
Sincere condolences to you and your family on your loss.

But from my simple math…

...92 years of life will always count as a win, not as a loss.

He will always keep winning, as long as you keep thinking of him.
 
Thanks, C-Dog. How is everything going with you and your family. If my memory serves me, you've gone through your share of adversity. How's your son doing of late. Wasn't he dealing with seizures at one point. I seem to remember that eventually going away, but maybe I got that wrong. I still remember the time we visited you down in FL. Boy that was a long time ago.

Yep Stu, but it was good. Although it was at least 2 (probably 3) championships ago. Back when we just finished recruiting Sampson and Isaiah Fox. Boy that brings back nightmares. Your memory serves you correctly about the neurological episodes that eventually subsided with my son. After my 3 strokes in October, we did a TEE on his heart and it looks good - no atrial septum aneurysm and PFO like his dad and uncle. He's is doing well and will be applying to med school at Florida in the fall. My daughter is a year away from her doctorate in exercise science/physical therapy. Man time flies... both our kids were small back then. How are you two doing? They must be in college now.

I am very sad about your dad. He did have a great life, great kids and grandkids. I lost my dad when I was 18. You were very fortunate to have had him so long. He is at peace now. Your family is in our prayers.
 
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