Don't you think that if Durr and/or Ogunbuwale had come to UConn, they would have learned to play in the UConn system, and share the ball? And that they would probably also have learned to enjoy doing it (more than they enjoyed 1-on-1 triumphs)?
I have never seen Durr play at the college level, but in watching Arike play for ND, I don't see anything that suggests that she is not a team player. It may be that Muffitt thinks that her using her 1-on-1 talent is the best way for Notre Dame to be successful, so she has given Arike a green light to do that. Particularly when ND has lacked a good post player for so much of Arike's time there, that may make a lot of sense, and Geno might have made the same decision if he had the same roster.