What I would ask after a game like that is, would people feel differently if we had won 42-38? Because it seems like there is a sharp lean towards offense on this board, which, while understandable, doesn't actually amount to anything other than a preference...and I think that, while the results have been mixed, at best, there is an entertainment and aesthetics component that I think is causing people to overstate how disappointing the results have been.
You also have to keep things like regression in mind. Virginia was -6 in their first two and a +1 today. UConn, IIRC, had sort of an unsustainable turnover differential last year and it has come back to the middle this season (they are a -3, I believe). Those things are part of football, but when you take a handful of plays that swing the win expectancy to such an extreme and concentrate them in one direction over a short period of time, it can skew progress.
The first three games taken collectively can and should be characterized as disappointing. But progress isn't linear, and perhaps, the fact that a few fluky plays here and there last season vaulted us ahead of schedule blinded some of you to how much work still had to be done. Add a couple crazy plays - maybe a special teams touchdown, a defensive touchdown, an onside kick... - to the mix a couple weeks from now in Houston, and it doesn't necessarily make us a drastically better team than we are now.
Last thing: we're UConn. Maybe that's a defeatist mentality, but it is what it is...we're a New England school trying compete in a sport that makes few inroads in this part of the country. Look at Syracuse, look at Rutgers, look at BC, just look at the entire ACC team in general - one half of the conference plays like the SEC and the other like the old Big East. It's fine to boast big dreams, but that doesn't change the bar...and the way the bar has been set at UConn, if you consistently get to bowl games and occasionally contend for the AAC division title, that's good enough.
Right now, they're on that track. And with a lot of guys hopefully returning, who knows what next season could bring? If you show up to the Rent expecting to see UConn basketball, you're going to leave disappointed. The rest will be content with grind-it-out wins over similarly handicapped teams from the north, because, hey, even if we used that once-in-a-lifetime lottery ticket already on Calhoun, it's still a lot of fun to watch a group of kids that work their ass off and proudly wear the jersey compete against peer institutions like UVA, Syracuse, BC, etc.