HuskyNan
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One of my beefs is people who think that things have to be done the same way they were a generation ago or they're wrong. Times change, people change.Where did I say everyone ? Getting a trophy for participating , and guaranteed playing time is just wrong. It teaches kids they are entitled to things, and discourages hard work.
I was on a baseball team as an 11 year old, and didn't play one inning, or get an at bat all season. It was because the boy (catcher) ahead of me was better. I knew it, and worked hard to become a starter the next 3 seasons. Competition is good, it brings out the best in most people.
The giving everyone a trophy thing isn't good for inspiring kids to try their hardest but it is good for getting some kids to try at all. You know, those shy, awkward kids that are terrified of joining a team, a club or whatever because they think they're not good enough. Well, maybe encouraging those kids might help them find abilities and strengths they didn't know they had.
As the parent of two teens, one now a freshman in college, I'm seeing more of a compromise between praising everyone equally and shutting kids out from activities. I live in a sports crazy town and everyone - EVERYONE - is encouraged to try out for something. The best performers get additional recognition; the bench players get included into the jocks' "inner circle" and everyone wins. I saw a stat that something like 65% of the high school students here are on some kind of team and many, many more are in organizations like marching band or competitive clubs (like the robotics club, math team, debate team, etc). Our town has high SAT scores, high student involvement in community service, and a ridiculously high rate of college bound seniors (95%, I think). Being included and involved is a good thing, and if you have to hand out a few trophies to all the kids at the elementary and middle school level, I'm fine with that.
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