You get the legitimate point about responsibility, but quite often your verbal expression is conveyed without seeming to apply the concept of responsibility to yourself.
I don't find it difficult to draw such a distinction, but some here seem to. That doesn't warrant my telling what they should or shouldn't do, or me holding things against them.
I'd wager you've heard, "It ain't what you say, it's how you say it." To me, that sentiment applies widely and deeply. Ymmv.
Well, we aren't speaking verbally anyway, so....
If you're saying I'm right that Ollie is accountable, but that doesn't mean i should say it. I disagree.
If you're saying I don't help myself with my tone, you're right. But I stopped trying to a long time ago because people are going to ascribe whatever tone they want to it anyway. They'll even fabricate your point just to disagree with it. Example: AugustWest tells me "What your saying is right" after present my argument as "it's okay that ben gordon slapped a girl because we won a national championship".

