Just deep fry a small bird yourself. Waaaay easier and faster than oven cooked. Plus y can hang outside having a cocktail with the kids while it cooksThey are adult children at this point so I guess they actually get to have a say, but I agree. My wife's thought is, "well I just want to make sure everyone enjoys the meal." If I pressed her on it, she'd probably separately make a turkey for me. She actually offered to do that the first year this came up.
She is an excellent cook, but, truth be told, turkey probably isn't her best meal.