A nice post from LVNation:
Head on correct. Geno, Pat, and even this ol coach wouldn't let our players control anything. Nor the parents.
I tell my parents from the gitgo... "You can't affect how much i play your child, but you can affect how much I don't"
When you have an alpha like DD, she has to have an alpha leading her. and she IS NOT UNIQUE!
Look at what Geno gets out of those kids. Better yet, let's take female coaching alpha's: McGraw, Vanderveer, Summit... You rarely see these women lose composure, ergo, you rarely see the team lose its composure.