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Stewie's Story

I feel all of what you all have said. But there's something else I couldn't help but notice, and I know it's an almost trivial point when compared with sexual abuse, but still...
She is one hell of a writer.
 
Bless you, Stewie. Your essay is immensely powerful, and very well-written. I hope, as a result of this courageous statement, you will find an even more complete and permanent healing.

Stewie Strong!
 
I taught school for 30 years, retiring in 2000 and coached for 32 years, retiring in 2002 and I believe one major cause of the lack of morals, civility, and chivalry is the lack of a family structure at home! Where families in the past spent a huge amount of time together, today every member of the family has their own schedule, responsibilities, and desires! Where a family used to sit around the dinner table and discuss what happened that day and just TALKED to each other, every person is out doing their own thing and the only time the WHOLE family is together is when they're sleeping in the same house!
I can't begin to tell you the huge number of kids in 1st through 5th grade that had house keys on their backpacks to let themselves into the house after school because no one would be home for hours!

In the Columbine horror one of the 2 boys had guns and a bomb laying in his room on the floor and his parents were told by him not to enter his room and never knew the craziness growing in their house! What parent doesn't check up on their children? Making sure they're safe or out of trouble!
In Newtown Adam Lanza with a mental disorder was taken to gun ranges by his mother and guns were kept in the house, making it easy for him to go on an insane rampage!
 
This has gone on since the dawn of time. It's just that women are finding their voices, and technology is allowing a wider audience to hear it. I think that's the only way it can come to an end. She is so incredibly brave to talk about this, and I hope it reaches the ears of a little girl or boy who is going through the same thing and gives them the courage to say something. As a new mother with young children, I am terrified about all the things I have to protect them from on a daily basis. Good for her parents for believing her and doing something about. Way too often it gets swept under the rug, in the interest of "family."
 
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RSHERMVIKES said:
I taught school for 30 years, retiring in 2000 and coached for 32 years, retiring in 2002 and I believe one major cause of the lack of morals, civility, and chivalry is the lack of a family structure at home! !
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Sounds like you think all this is new? Have you not been paying attention? Open your eyes and breath, sir. My mother is 84 years old. She grew up in a very wealthy area of Connecticut. Her dad died when she was five and when her mom remarried, he was quite the catch. The principal of a highly regarded private school. He was quite the educator. Beloved by all.

And he sexually molested my mother and her sister.

I grew up with a fabulous "family structure." Two parents who were honest with me, who trusted me. Who supported and loved me and modeled for me civility, morality and community service. The one rule was that we ate dinner together.

And a friend of the family sexually molested me.

This. Is. Not. New. There was no mythical past where men were gentlemen and women were not harassed, raped or abused. If you're suddenly horrified you simply have not been paying attention. Or listening.

Sorry, men. This is on you. Commit to fixing it. Look in the mirror and say "This will no longer be tolerated. I will treat women with respect. I will tell other men to do so. I will raise sons and nephews to do the same. I will call out my friends and co-workers. I will believe women and I will be part of making a better world for them. A world where they are safer simply because the abuse of women is no longer dismissed or tolerated."

End this.
 
ThisJustIn said:
Sounds like you think all this is new? Have you not been paying attention? Open your eyes and breath, sir. My mother is 84 years old. She grew up in a very wealthy area of Connecticut. Her dad died when she was five and when her mom remarried, he was quite the catch. The principal of a highly regarded private school. He was quite the educator. Beloved by all.

And he sexually molested my mother and her sister.

I grew up with a fabulous "family structure." Two parents who were honest with me, who trusted me. Who supported and loved me and modeled for me civility, morality and community service. The one rule was that we ate dinner together.

And a friend of the family sexually molested me.

This. Is. Not. New. There was no mythical past where men were gentlemen and women were not harassed, raped or abused. If you're suddenly horrified you simply have not been paying attention. Or listening.

Sorry, men. This is on you. Commit to fixing it. Look in the mirror and say "This will no longer be tolerated. I will treat women with respect. I will tell other men to do so. I will raise sons and nephews to do the same. I will call out my friends and co-workers. I will believe women and I will be part of making a better world for them. A world where they are safer simply because the abuse of women is no longer dismissed or tolerated."

End this.
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Thank you for this post.
 
JordyG said:
I couldn't finish reading it. I'm in tears. I feel sick.

Now I'm angry. How have we failed all of these women who have responded to #Me too. All those who haven't responded who have had to live with this all these years. All those who at this moment are living through this nightmare. How have we so failed ourselves as men? As a society?

Not to bring politics too far into this spotlight. But when Obama was elected as our president so many called America a "post racial society" When will this ever be called a post predator society? When?
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Never
 
tomcat said:
I feel all of what you all have said. But there's something else I couldn't help but notice, and I know it's an almost trivial point when compared with sexual abuse, but still...
She is one hell of a writer.
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Not to take anything away from Stewie's writing, but The Players Tribune seems to give a lot of editorial assistance to the athletes who publish there. Have seen very eloquent pieces there from athletes who appear borderline illiterate on TV.

In any case, you are correct that this is trivial relative to her message, which was very powerful and courageous.
 
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I couldn't get through it. Sickening. No words to describe what I would do to the guy.
 
If you want to know the opinion towards survivors read any articles about cases such as bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein or [mod edit] ...and then read the comments that follow. I understand about people hiding behind the anonymity of the internet...but I believe it’s easier for them to say exactly what they think without ramifications...no matter how it is.
 
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Given Stewie’s platform, there is no doubt in my mind that her story will give some young girl the courage to speak up and find help. That is life changing.

Unfortunately, Stewie’s story is all too common. This kind of event, #metoo, is the nugget of good in social media. The sheer volume of women coming forward has been overwhelmingly shocking to my male friends. I know it is increasing conversations around consent, on a daily basis, for many of those households. For that, I am grateful.

Many blessings to Stewie for her courageous words on a national and international stage. I applaud, and thank her, for that courage.

#metoo
 
That was heartbreaking, she's incredibly brave for sharing her story.
 
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Thank goodness that she was able to go to her parents and that they believed her and did everything they could to help her heal. It just kills me to hear stories of a family not believing their child especially a mother. I hate so much that she suffered through the abuse for two years but I’m glad that she was able to tell her parents and get some justice as well. She could have easily let this ruin her life but instead she was able to succeed in life. I hope talking about this horrible experience not only helps others but also helps her. I have a 2 year old girl and reading this made me want to never let her out of my sight.
 
Yes, you are correct- it is on men. But it's on society to take an honest look at how we socialize boys and girls-
 
Teacherdeb said:
Yes, you are correct- it is on men. But it's on society to take an honest look at how we socialize boys and girls-
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While I think you are right, most of the time, there are plenty of cases where women (school teachers come to mind) who have abused young boys.
Take a realistic view of religions - almost all religions - and how they have viewed women. In most they are not equal, in some really not equal.
 
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ctfjr said:
No, I don't agree - Its because of the technology and the free flowing information machine we have now that lets these stories be told to a wider audience. You don't think these things always happened? Now its just easier to have them told.
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I don’t agree...while abuse has gone on forever, the internet reaches a massive audience worldwide. There have been numerous kiddie rings busted...and they involve millions, yes millions of perps... this massive audience creates more opportunities and needs for children to be forced into being a part of their twisted as f@&# perversions...
 
I am very proud of Breanna for the courage to come forward and share her story with the world! That is the one of the hardest things a person will ever have to do! It is even harder for men to disclose what happened to them! I was an alter boy very involved with my catholic school and church. In 8th grade I was the star basketball and baseball player. My Memere was the longest and oldest member of the church. She sat with the nuns every day of the year for mass. So if I did something wrong she head about it. She asked me to help a priest move some boxes. He asked her to ask me to help him. He sexually assaulted me that day and also 3 more times asking her each time! I was 13 at the time. I couldnt tell her about it or my parents. In 2009 I finally told someone 30 years after the fact because my GMA and Dad both passed away in the same year. Come to find out the year before me another kid had the same thing happen. He was sent to Maine to live with his Grandfather who preceded to do it to him also! He is serving 30 years in Maine for killing him! The fact is this will always be around and people will always be getting hurt by people they trust!
 
Stewie is my favorite former player. She amazed me by impacting the game in so many ways. She has always been a joy to watch and always carries herself in a dignified manner. Truly an admirable young woman.

The story never went into enough detail as to whether this was a relative or just a friend of the family. I guess on some level I'd like to know the answer to that just to understand things a bit more fully. What a terrible thing for a young girl age 9 to 11 to go through. I can't even imagine being in a position that she was in time after time. I hope that she has been able to fully recover from it and will lead a very happy and healthy life, she's brought so much joy to so many of us that's the least we can wish for her.
 
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