The First Amendment obviously does not entitle you to say anything you want on a private message board. However, as a guiding principle on which our country was founded, freedom of expression is something I deeply believe in. As such, I lean towards erring on the side of letting people discuss ideas freely and openly.
Moreover, given that this is a fanbase that's not used to losing, especially not shocking upsets at home on Senior Night, and given the anonimity provided by a message board, I would say the comments on here have been pretty tame. Look at the men's board sometime. Go to a football board during the season, especially one wth a rabid CFB fanbase like Bama, Texas, OU, etc. Geno treats his kids like basketball players who happen to be young women. I'd suggest that's an example worth following. Without any information about the email TonyC received, such as who it was from or what specific content they were upset about, I have no basis for commenting on whether someone really did cross a line that shouldn't be crossed. Generally speaking, I'd imagine most recruits' families are happy that there are avid, passionate fans of WBB at UConn in enough critical mass to have a message board because you don't get that everywhere.
We are dealing with an imperfect team with imperfect players. The crazy thing is that, three times in UConn's history, we have had something remarkably close to perfect teams with perfect players (I don't consider 1995 such a team, perfect record notwithstanding, though it was damn good, obviously). It is not a crime to analyze and discuss the ways in which this team is imperfect. I do agree that criticizing someone's personal qualities and not her game, being overly hyperbolic, and speculation/rumor-mongering don't do the board or the program any good, but this board's moderators do a much better job than most keeping that stuff off of here.