Funny you mention Geno in the conversation, because you are spot on. I watched a video a couple years ago, a panel of 6 or 7 college coaches, who were speaking about leadership to members working at the Pentagon. Geno's most memorable conversation piece (in my mind anyway) was how he commanded the team, yet let them make the decisions. To play without having to be directed what to do. Granted he always has great talented and smart players, but he even said he gives them the tools to succeed, and then tells them to go do something with it. One player would come to him and say, coach I can take my man. Geno told her, don't tell me about it, if you can do it, just go do it. KO was also on the panel...if you have time and are an avid student of leadership, YouTube "Pentagon Sports Leadership Forum" - hall of fame coaches talking leadership.
(PS sorry for involving the women's discussion on a men's board - but in all honesty, I believe it applies to our current discussion!)