My loyalty is to the program. Kids change their minds about lots of things all the time, they also tell their parents to Shut Up on occasion. Had Alex simply left, had he made it clear that he did not appreciate his father's comments, I would harbor no ill feelings towards him. Instead, he ripped the coach and the program, so for as long as he was playing college ball, where his comments would be repeated again and again by the media, I hated him. But now he's done and I wish him well in his future.