Sharing and adding to this sentiment since it was deleted with other posts in the other thread...
I’m a minority here on the BY because I’m both a woman and young.
Based on some of the discussions, for most of you I’m young enough to be your daughter. For some of you I’m young enough to be your granddaughter.
On top of that, I work with high schoolers (and therefore, high school girls) every day.
There is no reason to make digs about how someone looks when you’re talking about their performance because when you do that, you undermine the time and effort that went into that performance. Just because the person you’re talking about will never hear or see what you say doesn’t mean that it’s okay to say it.
Because women who are important to you will hear it.
Your daughter will hear it.
Your granddaughter will hear it.
And while they might not be making the same makeup and style choices as the women you’re disparaging, what you’re telling them is that the way they look means more than how they’re performing. It probably isn’t your intention, but that’s how it comes across.
This is especially detrimental for the young people in your life who are still trying to figure who they are in a world that constantly bombards them with what they should be.
