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Wow. I've been asking the wrong questions on the first date I guess
In fairness to the OP (of that particular notion), I did happen across some news articles on the subject soon thereafter with data that seemed to reinforce his premise:Wow. I've been asking the wrong questions on the first date I guess
At the same time, I watch my guy friends who are still dating and think I'm glad I don't have to sift through the morass that is single women when you're almost 30.
That was good, well done!Some guys want morass, some guys want to get married.
That's why you date younger women. No shortage of single 24-26 year old chicks.At the same time, I watch my guy friends who are still dating and think I'm glad I don't have to sift through the morass that is single women when you're almost 30.
Got a picture of the back today
Con graulations!!I knew it was the one when we walked into the basement and there was a slate top pool table with this lamp hanging above it:
I knew it was the one when we walked into the basement and there was a slate top pool table with this lamp hanging above it....
Lol. Reminds me of my favorite movie quote:That's why you date younger women. No shortage of single 24-26 year old chicks.
Great line from the show Master of None that I don't remember exactly so I'll paraphrase "So just because you're the person I happen to be dating at the point in my life when people typically get married that means your the person I'm going to spend the rest of your life with?"
Changed my way of thinking bro. But in all seriousness congrats on that sweet light.
UCHuskies08 said:Trust me, the decision was not one taken lightly by me. We've been together for a very long time, we had a break period a couple years ago, for about over year, where I spent a long time thinking about what I wanted in life completely independent of my relationship with her, and whether I wanted to be a parent, whether I should try to find someone to be with who doesn't want kids, whether I should just stay single my entire life. I could do all three and be happy. But there were ultimately a few factors that pushed me in this direction. First, living alone, as I have for a number of years now, I just do not live a healthy lifestyle. If I do this my whole life, I will not be a healthy old person. Second, the thing that brought me around on accepting the loss of free time from having kids is that the alternative makes it a good chance that you will be a very lonely old person. Third, I got to have a "breath of fresh air" so to speak during our break, and the modern dating world may work for some, but it's not a world I want to occupy for an extended period of time anymore. Doesn't mean I won't miss the free time, all of my money, and freedom to do whatever I wish at any moment. I will.
UCHuskies08 said:Well, as I said in my post, that was my analysis of the situation, completely independent of my relationship with her
Trust me, the decision was not one taken lightly by me. We've been together for a very long time, we had a break period a couple years ago, for about over year, where I spent a long time thinking about what I wanted in life completely independent of my relationship with her, and whether I wanted to be a parent, whether I should try to find someone to be with who doesn't want kids, whether I should just stay single my entire life. I could do all three and be happy.
But there were ultimately a few factors that pushed me in this direction. First, living alone, as I have for a number of years now, I just do not live a healthy lifestyle. If I do this my whole life, I will not be a healthy old person. Second, the thing that brought me around on accepting the loss of free time from having kids is that the alternative makes it a good chance that you will be a very lonely old person. Third, I got to have a "breath of fresh air" so to speak during our break, and the modern dating world may work for some, but it's not a world I want to occupy for an extended period of time anymore.
Doesn't mean I won't miss the free time, all of my money, and freedom to do whatever I wish at any moment. I will.
Well, as I said in my post, that was my analysis of the situation, completely independent of my relationship with her
But there were ultimately a few factors that pushed me in this direction. First, living alone, as I have for a number of years now, I just do not live a healthy lifestyle. If I do this my whole life, I will not be a healthy old person. Second, the thing that brought me around on accepting the loss of free time from having kids is that the alternative makes it a good chance that you will be a very lonely old person. Third, I got to have a "breath of fresh air" so to speak during our break, and the modern dating world may work for some, but it's not a world I want to occupy for an extended period of time anymore.
I wouldn't worry to much about justifying things to this lot.... I mean consider the quality of the basketball posts on here.
Mmm, maybe don't write your own vows...
[Insert name here] when I look at you I realize that getting drunk and eating wings every night probably wasn't healthy for me. Marrying you is better than dying alone, I guess. Plus when we were apart, I had to work to hard to get laid. Sure they were young, different and exciting, but I guess I'd trade that for a sure thing... wait where are you going?
We're giving marriage advice now? After twenty years, this board can't decide which pizza is the best or assemble one coherent post about the game of basketball. We have more people who go on imaginary dinner dates with Andre Drummond than people who are qualified to give relationship advice.
The kid is getting married and buying a condo. While some of you seem disappointed at the less-than-Harlequin level of effusiveness he's shown in his public rationale, he's probably put some thought into it. Good enough.
And if it doesn't work out, one of you can buy the sign at the divorce dispersal sale.
I know. I just can't help but think you are being practical. I was being practical and then I realized I was approaching it all wrong. Just throwing something out there that was valuable to me and hoping it helps someone else on the board.