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[HuskyNan]

Tempers seem to be running a bit high lately. I know the losses to ND are disappointing/upsetting/pissing you off/outrageous but we need to discuss the games without letting emotions affect the board. Right after the last game there were several posts with name calling and personal attacks. The poster may have had a good point but the post needed to be deleted so, unfortunately, most people never got to read a logical argument. So, before you give in to the urge to call someone a jerk, an or whatever, reconsider whether or not your point will be lost because of your presentation.

Just a couple things-

• Yes, you can criticize the team. Be prepared to have people disagree with you, though. People tell me all the time they "can't" criticize the team but what they really mean is that whenever they're critical, they get swamped with dissenting opinions. So obviously criticism is allowed; it's just not particularly well liked by many posters. It is the way it is. Again, you might want to consider your presentation.
• Use of absolutes ("She always...", "She never...") or using hyperbole ("She's the worst/least...") is going to get you negative responses. Just saying.
• Try to be civil, please. If someone else is uncivil, before getting into a back and forth with them, please consider putting them on Ignore or hitting the Report button at the bottom of the post.
• One a kind of a side note - it's not just basketball games making people cranky. The time change means everyone's getting up an hour early and their bodies aren't really happy about this. Everyone's tired and irritable and little things become magnified into huge issues. Just a little perspective.

 

[Kibitzer]

• Try to be civil, please. If someone else is uncivil, before getting into a back and forth with them, please consider putting them on Ignore hitting the Report button at the bottom of the post.
• One a kind of a side note - it's not just basketball games making people cranky. The time change means everyone's getting up an hour early and their bodies aren't really happy about this. Everyone's tired and irritable and little things become magnified into huge issues. Just a little perspective.

It's not the time change or the bb games. I am always cranky and seldom civil. After all these years posting on The Boneyard I have simply followed the confrontational style of such curmugeons as HuskyBill, DoggyDaddy and IceBear. So my ritual is to say a silent grrrr every time I hit the "Post Reply" button.

Ready? Set? GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!

 

[meyers7]

After all these years posting on The Boneyard I have simply followed the confrontational style of such curmugeons as HuskyBill, DoggyDaddy and IceBear.

Glad I haven't made it to the curmudgeon level ......yet.

 

[Icebear]

Glad I haven't made it to the curmudgeon level ......yet.

Did you consider the possibility of having surpassed it? ;-)

 

[Biff]

Glad I haven't made it to the curmudgeon level ......yet.

Or, it could be you are "HC" (Hors catégorie) as they say in the Tour De France.

 

[meyers7]

Did you consider the possibility of having surpassed it? ;-)

I'm not old enough.

 

[meyers7]

Or, it could be you are "HC" (Hors catégorie) as they say in the Tour De France.

If one ever sees me in real life, one is quite aware that I am not on the "juice" (or cream).

(more like on the Boston Creme)

 

[Icebear]

If one ever sees me in real life, one is quite aware that I am not on the "juice" (or cream).

(more like on the Boston Creme)

A friend of mine used to make Boston Scream pie at Halloween. Somehow that seems appropriate to insert here.

 

[Adios]

It's a joke to see what fans say about players when players want to win more than the fans. Who gets the rings? The fans or the players?

 

[ChicagoGG]

Thanks for the timely reminders, Nan. Hope the pot boils with a little less vitriol...yesterday made me almost take a 'Yard vacation till selection Monday.

I am all for discussion, and criticism, too, if it's fairly civil. And it is often pretty humorous.The drive-bys and the trolls can be discouraging, tho.

And yes, there are some regular posters on here who seem to have an agenda that includes hating on Geno and some team members. If that is so, why do they come to a fan board?? Not talking about people with legit questions or gripes, just those who beat the same old drum of negativity all the time.

Just saying...

 

[ChicagoGG]

It's not the time change or the bb games. I am always cranky and seldom civil. After all these years posting on The Boneyard I have simply followed the confrontational style of such curmugeons as HuskyBill, DoggyDaddy and IceBear. So my ritual is to say a silent grrrr every time I hit the "Post Reply" button.

Ready? Set? GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!

You mean that charming man and his Mrs. that I met at half time during a game was an imposter? I am shocked and saddened! Who was that claiming to be Kib???

 

[Icebear]

You mean that charming man and his Mrs. that I met at half time during a game was an imposter? I am shocked and saddened! Who was that claiming to be Kib???

Kib is delightful and wonderful but don't be deluded to think that he isn't ready to land in the breach with both feet. Although he tends to hobble away after landing.

Blessings, Kib.

 

[ChicagoGG]

Kib is delightful and wonderful but don't be deluded to think that he isn't ready to land in the breach with both feet. Although he tends to hobble away after landing.

Blessings, Kib.

I am sure that if needed, Kib's warrior side would be very much to the fore. I did enjoy meeting the Kibs. And hope to someday meet you also, Padre Ice. Good wishes to all three of you!

 

[Samanthabrown3]

Glad I haven't made it to the curmudgeon level ......yet.

You have a lot to look forward to! I'm also planning on hitting the eccentric level.

 

[Samanthabrown3]

Nan, we're lucky to have you as a mod. The civility is what keeps me coming back to the Boneyard (well, that and the humor, too). When I read the hate on other boards, about other topics as well as sports, I'm grateful for all of the Boneyard's curmudgeons and fanatics, and to you for keeping us in line!

 

[pinotbear]

Glad I haven't made it to the curmudgeon level ......yet.

Ah, a word near and dear to my heart. One of my favorite books is a collection of relevant quotes - "The Portable Curmudgeon". Allow me to quote the first two paragraphs of the introduction. I'm particularly fond of the second paragraph.

"Dictionaries define curmudgeon as a churlish, irascible fellow; a cantankerous old codger. The origin of the word is unknown, but it might come from an old Scottish word that meant "murmur" or "mumble", or from the French coeur mechant, "evil heart". The archaic definition made it a synonym for miser, and the word has had recent currency in a somewhat milder connotation, to describe a not entirely unlikable grouch.

A curmudgeon's reputation for malevolence is undeserved. They're neither warped, nor evil at heart. They don't hate mankind, just mankind's excesses. They're just as sensitive and soft-hearted as the next guy, but they hide their vulnerability beneath a crust of misanthropy. They ease the pain by turning hurt into humor. They snarl at pretense and bite at hypocrisy out of a healthy sense of outrage. They attack maudlinism because it devalues genuine sentiment. They hurl polemical thunderbolts at middle-class values and pop culture in order to preserve their sanity. Nature, having failed to equip them with a serviceable denial mechanism, has endowed them with astute perception and sly wit. Offense is their only defense. Their weapons are irony, satire, sarcasm, ridicule. Their targets are pretense, pomposity, conformity, incompetence. And they'll tell you that their targets are everywhere and multiplying like Smurfs."

A couple of more comments, if I may: The book, compiled by Jon Winokur, is laid out alphabetically, but has special highlights devoted to great American curmudgeons, such as Mencken, W.C. Fields, Groucho Marx, Dorothy Parker, and others. It makes for great "bathroom reading", as you can spend a few minutes just checking out the section on, say, Fran Lebowitz, or "G, H, and I". Under "S", for instance, there are a few entries on "sports", one of which is below.

"Serious sport has nothing to do with fair play. It is bound up with hatred, jealousy, boastfulness, disregard of all rules and sadistic pleasure in witnessing violence: in other words, it is war minus the shooting" - George Orwell

Lastly, the nit-picker in me has to observe: as much as I love the last words of the paragraphs I quoted above - "multiplying like Smurfs" - I can only remember one reproductive-age female Smurf regulary featured (Smurfette), so, I'm not sure how apt Winokur's choice of words is. Love the way it rolls off the tongue, 'tho!

 

[OneTrickPony]

Allow me to paraphrase...curmudgeon and proud of it...bravo, sir!

 

[meyers7]

Ah, a word near and dear to my heart.

Actually mine too. I remember my eldest coming home from school with the word curmudgeon as a vocabulary word. For some reason he thought it was very interesting and used it constantly for a couple weeks. So every time I hear it, it reminds me of my son.

A curmudgeon's reputation for malevolence is undeserved. They're neither warped, nor evil at heart. They don't hate mankind, just mankind's excesses. They're just as sensitive and soft-hearted as the next guy, but they hide their vulnerability beneath a crust of misanthropy. They ease the pain by turning hurt into humor. They snarl at pretense and bite at hypocrisy out of a healthy sense of outrage. They attack maudlinism because it devalues genuine sentiment. They hurl polemical thunderbolts at middle-class values and pop culture in order to preserve their sanity. Nature, having failed to equip them with a serviceable denial mechanism, has endowed them with astute perception and sly wit. Offense is their only defense. Their weapons are irony, satire, sarcasm, ridicule. Their targets are pretense, pomposity, conformity, incompetence. And they'll tell you that their targets are everywhere and multiplying like Smurfs."

Hmmm, maybe I am a curmudgeon?

"Serious sport has nothing to do with fair play. It is bound up with hatred, jealousy, boastfulness, disregard of all rules and sadistic pleasure in witnessing violence: in other words, it is war minus the shooting" - George Orwell

That’s where sport came from. The Olympics were just war techniques (running, throwing javelin, hammer, etc.) that they used as sport/war training.

Lastly, the nit-picker in me has to observe: as much as I love the last words of the paragraphs I quoted above - "multiplying like Smurfs" - I can only remember one reproductive-age female Smurf regulary featured (Smurfette), so, I'm not sure how apt Winokur's choice of words is. Love the way it rolls off the tongue, 'tho!

Very astute observation. I missed that in the initial reading.

 

[phil sampieri]

Tempers seem to be running a bit high lately. I know the losses to ND are disappointing/upsetting/pissing you off/outrageous but we need to discuss the games without letting emotions affect the board. Right after the last game there were several posts with name calling and personal attacks. The poster may have had a good point but the post needed to be deleted so, unfortunately, most people never got to read a logical argument. So, before you give in to the urge to call someone a jerk, an or whatever, reconsider whether or not your point will be lost because of your presentation.

Just a couple things-

• Yes, you can criticize the team. Be prepared to have people disagree with you, though. People tell me all the time they "can't" criticize the team but what they really mean is that whenever they're critical, they get swamped with dissenting opinions. So obviously criticism is allowed; it's just not particularly well liked by many posters. It is the way it is. Again, you might want to consider your presentation.
• Use of absolutes ("She always...", "She never...") or using hyperbole ("She's the worst/least...") is going to get you negative responses. Just saying.
• Try to be civil, please. If someone else is uncivil, before getting into a back and forth with them, please consider putting them on Ignore hitting the Report button at the bottom of the post.
• One a kind of a side note - it's not just basketball games making people cranky. The time change means everyone's getting up an hour early and their bodies aren't really happy about this. Everyone's tired and irritable and little things become magnified into huge issues. Just a little perspective.

We really need you're perspective at times and this is one of them.We all should
be reminded of the saying-Better to be silent and thought a fool than to speak
and remove all doubt. Opine but don't be judgemental if uninformed

 

[VAMike23]

If one ever sees me in real life, one is quite aware that I am not on the "juice" (or cream).

(more like on the Boston Creme)

What about "the Clear" .....?

the real 'Clear'
.

 

[Vowelguy]

please consider putting them on Ignore hitting the Report button at the bottom of the post.

I can't recommend this highly enough. My BY experience became much more pleasureable after I started using it.

 

[meyers7]

What about "the Clear" .....?

the real 'Clear'
.

That kind of "clear"?, Absolutely. (pun intended)

Actually Sambucca is the "juice" of choice.

 

[JRRRJ]

• One a kind of a side note - it's not just basketball games making people cranky. The time change means everyone's getting up an hour early and their bodies aren't really happy about this. Everyone's tired and irritable and little things become magnified into huge issues. Just a little perspective.

It's only you people who live in places where you have to "save" sunlight that have this problem...

 

[JRRRJ]

Lastly, the nit-picker in me has to observe: as much as I love the last words of the paragraphs I quoted above - "multiplying like Smurfs" - I can only remember one reproductive-age female Smurf regulary featured (Smurfette), so, I'm not sure how apt Winokur's choice of words is. Love the way it rolls off the tongue, 'tho!

Smurfs didn't need fecund females to reproduce. They can use humans for that purpose. Depending on the publication date of the book, there may have been as many Smurfs as people in these here United States.

 

[pinotbear]

..I guess I missed THAT issue of the National Enquirer!"

Smurfs didn't need fecund females to reproduce. They can use humans for that purpose. Depending on the publication date of the book, there may have been as many Smurfs as people in these here United States.
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