I'll start with the cliches (or similar), because they seem particularly apt.
Heads we lose a lot; tails we don't win much
For every punch, there's a counter punch.
Any loss counts hugely against us and means we're not that good.
But any victory is no big deal and can be explained away so that we're not that good:
The margin wasn't big enough, so we're not that good
We beat a team that lost, so we're not that good
The second half margin was smaller than the first half, so we're not that good
We were the home team, so we were expected to win, so the victory wasn't all that great, so we're not that good
Our good opponents really aren't all that good, so we're not that good
The final 8, 4, or 2 minutes saw the margin shrink, so we're not that good
One false move and we aren't that good.
Any success and it's ephemeral.
The losses are proof positive that we aren't that good. They can and must be trusted.
The victories are at best provisional, and always undeserving of trust.
Remember:
We were great in the beginning of the season, but that was months ago not now.
We were terrible in January, and must never forget this.
We must always know that the January bad could re-emerge at any time.
None of these notions apply, for example, to Purdue which is 3-4 in February.
Except that our victories over Iowa State and Oklahoma State don't really mean much, because those teams have both lost a lot in Big 12 play recently.
And our victory over Oregon counts even less because their roster was depleted by injuries when we played.
The 15-point victory over Alabama was from when we were good and they weren't yet great. Brandon Miller was a freshman, playing in only his 6th game. Plus, we let them close an earlier double digit gap. Besides, their losses to Tennessee and Oklahoma were on the road, and the Oklahoma game was a fluke anyway, so it shouldn't be held against them, and their Gonzaga loss wasn't a home loss because the game was played in Birmingham not Tuscaloosa, and they beat Houston in an away game coming back from a large margin, but the UConn loss that featured a closed margin that got reopened as a second large margin doesn't mean as much because it was done on a neutral court which wasn't as hard as coming back in a true road game, so WE'RE not that good AND they are not bad AND it wasn't so great a UConn win.
Remember, no other team is viewed by its fans through the UConn lens. And no other team is viewed this way by the AP voters or the NCAA Committee, and the computers are not trustworthy.
No other fan base subjects its team to such scrutiny, and no other team catastrophizes their teams or its losses:
Not Miami for losing at home to Florida State after being up 25. That was a fluke, and all teams have a let down and it doesn't matter that FSU isn't very good, and besides, Alabama lost to Oklahoma a bottom-dweller in the Big 12 but it was a road game, and besides, Oklahoma just beat Iowa State on the road, and Iowa State was a Top 16 reveal, even if they've lost 3 in a row, so that UConn's neutral court 18-point win back in December doesn't count much. And besides, Big 12. And, oh yeah, Miami is only 1 game behind the Pittsburgh in the ACC, which is a much better conference that people think, because ACC.
Not Purdue for being swept by Indiana. That just means that Indiana is really good, and besides, B1G.
When UConn plays DePaul on Wednesday, nothing good can come of it. It's a home game against a perennial bottom dweller. NO matter how large a victory margin is, so what? That's supposed to happen, so it's meaningless. ANYTHING less than a huge margin means (you guessed it), we're not that good at best, and every worst fear has been confirmed at worst. In the latter case, we may be relieved of pain by the world ending.
And next Saturday holds only the slimmest possibility of anything good. If UConn wins convincingly on the road against a full-strength Nova team, who will take notice and care? Nova is a .500 team in a non-P5 conference, with a new coach who might be in over his head after being hastily-chosen after the unexpected retirement if a legend, so how good a victory can it be considered? But anything other than a convincing win will be regarded as something ranging from troublesome to horrifying. OK, maybe not horrifying, but it would hurt UConn while pushing the narrative that Nova is back!
In other words, after these many many words, there is NO winning EXCEPT for winning the games, as they are played...
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Go Huskies