Recruiting behaviors are over the top, in general.
The RU fan club was once - many years ago - given a tour - pre-arranged - of the locker room, designed ultimately to elicit donations to upgrade. Accidently, we saw a locker with a uniform number, name etc. which we didn't recognize. Later "investigation" revealed it was a (not famous) recruit that was on a visit - we didn't get her. But reading in publications revealed that this sort of thing is typical of what goes on. Manipulative? I would say so. OK at the time? Yes, although boosters should never have seen it, but that was just bad timing. And this was a long time ago, when I think things were a bit less sophisticated - say 12 or more years ago.