OT: Moving Anxiety

[Deepster]

How many books/shows/movies have been about men ditching the monotony of their boring, repetitive lives in search of adventure?

How many books/shows/movies have been about men wishing they could have a predicable, repetitive life?

There is plenty of neuro research that shows that humans love novelty.

Exactly. They’re movies because they are not the norm.

 

[JakeTheDog]

Bro, something that helped me tremendously is seeing a therapist. I see a LCSW once a week and it no joke changed and probably saved my life. Talking to a professional about these things is the way to go. I happen to be someone who uses meds and therapy to combat my anxiety and depression. Everyone is different and don’t allow people to shame you for wanting to live a better life. Mental health FTW.

 

[Yardigan]

I have found that humans love routines and hate change.

Think about a baby. They need to eat at a certain time every day. They take a nap at the same time every day. You throw a baby's routine out for a day and what happens? They're miserable and scream and cry.....until they fall back into their safe routine.

As adults, we're the same. We take the same route to work. Sit in the same spot. Take our coffee the same way. Your routine is being disrupted and it's making you uncomfortable....until you find your new safe routine.

You'll be fine and Mexico sounds way, way better than North Dakota IMO.

Been to Bismarck a few times...thought it was actually kinda nice. 'cept for the time I went in the winter and couldn't get out of my rental car because the doors were froze shut.

 

[Da_Aisijimo_Gou]

I have asked a lot of questions in the past week. Encountered some individuals who have done the same thing. Moved to a new country without knowing lots of people. One individual did mention they used medication to get through early stages.

@NDakotaHusky Enthusiastically moved multiple times to different countries, some more similar to the US than others, experienced varying rates of cultural adaptation, etc. The most interesting, delayed and challenging upon returning to the States after a decade in a few vastly different Asian locations. Several years later, still figuring out preferred alternative(s) to spend part of years away from our increasingly screwed up nation.

Cannot add anything of value regarding anxiety nor related counseling nor medications. However, will be happy to reply to private messages regarding expat life, preparation, possible do & don’ts for consideration, etc.

One specific recommendation, always found it best to limit overzealous visitations to closed-world Yank, Irish, British pub cocoons. Or, dependencies on expat-only socializing. Dive in, learn, live, experience, learn the local language, meet and befriend locals (not just work colleagues), grow, etc.

You can do it. Worst case, hop back on a plane after giving it a legitimate shot in nearby, more similar than different Monterrey (90 min flight to/from Houston; easy peasey!). Good luck.

 

[Rocktheworld]

Exactly. They’re movies because they are not the norm.

So best-selling novels and box office movies are made to appeal to a small niche of people who will identify with the protagonist? Lol sure

Media reflects society

 

[Dove]

Bro, something that helped me tremendously is seeing a therapist. I see a LCSW once a week and it no joke changed and probably saved my life. Talking to a professional about these things is the way to go. I happen to be someone who uses meds and therapy to combat my anxiety and depression. Everyone is different and don’t allow people to shame you for wanting to live a better life. Mental health FTW.

We are therapists, idiot!

 

[August_West]

corporate america for three decades and dealt with change management

 

[Deepster]

So best-selling novels and box office movies are made to appeal to a small niche of people who will identify with the protagonist? Lol sure

Media reflects society

Right. And movies aren’t an escape from reality.

 

[Rocktheworld]

Right. And movies aren’t an escape from reality.

Yeah exactly lol people fantasize about doing what the protagonist does to escape their repetitive life.

You’re really having a tough time with this concept

 

[Hunt for 7]

I have asked a lot of questions in the past week. Encountered some individuals who have done the same thing. Moved to a new country without knowing lots of people. One individual did mention they used medication to get through early stages.

The peso just hit an all time high against the US dollar so financially it is probably a great time to move to Mexico.

 

[WrenchFan69]

Mexico is awesome and you're gonna love it. Hit up Shonn Miller while you're there.

 

[superjohn]

The peso just hit an all time high against the US dollar so financially it is probably a great time to move to Mexico.

Mexico City is my favorite city. Haven't been to a bunch but I've seen some. That's without a doubt a great city.

 

[temery]

Best way to address anxiety is to go for a long walk. If you did 3-5 mile/day you'd be in Mexico in about a year. Anxiety should be gone by then.