Lauren and Michala redux

[DaddyChoc]

seems that the OP think its ok to give up everything you're involved in unless "you're the man"... Im guessing he's a world class skier with a few gold medal on the mantel.

OldeCoach do you know this guy/gal

 

[tomcat]

seems that the OP think its ok to give up everything you're involved in unless "you're the man"... Im guessing he's a world class skier with a few gold medal on the mantel.

OldeCoach do you know this guy/gal

Being just a tad judgmental today, aren't we, folks? I come to this discussion late, but what we have here is a post from someone who raised a legitimate and pretty complex question. Perhaps he or she doesn't know it's been talked about a lot in the past, but no matter. The question relates to how benchwarmers feel if they know it's unlikely they are going to get a lot of playing time and what is it about them that causes them to stick around when they probably could start for some pretty decent teams around the country.

The OP did not do him/herself any favors by describing the decision to quit the band when he/she found out that the quality of other players was much better than what he could bring to the band. You know, I'll bet all of us can realte to this in some way. All of us, at one time or another, found ourselves in the position of suddenly being a small fish in a big pond, of finding that everyone around us was at least as smart/strong/quick/attractive/whatever as we were.

Some people react by learning how to swim in the big pond. Some actually become one of the big fish in the big pond. Some opt for a smaller pond. And some leave the pond altogether. The choice that we make, whichever it is, is influenced by the environment, the attributes we believe we bring to the decision, and our psyche. It's different for everyone.

I do not believe that the OP in any way suggested that the proper route for these two young women was do the equivalent of what he did, and quit the team. Seems to me that what he was asking had to do with what causes people to make the decisions they make.

To stifle the person raising the question by suggesting that the only proper answer is to stick it out is, at least, narrow-minded. We can all be thankful for Caroline Doty without demanding that everyone make the same decisions that she has made. What she has done is admirable. I submit that a player who suffers two or three ACLs and concludes that, "I know I cannot play at the level I want to play, so I'm going to do something else," has made a legitimate decision that we might lament, but that none of us, really, has the right to question.

 

[DaddyChoc]

Being just a tad judgmental today, aren't we, folks? I come to this discussion late, but what we have here is a post from someone who raised a legitimate and pretty complex question. Perhaps he or she doesn't know it's been talked about a lot in the past, but no matter. The question relates to how benchwarmers feel if they know it's unlikely they are going to get a lot of playing time and what is it about them that causes them to stick around when they probably could start for some pretty decent teams around the country.

The OP did not do him/herself any favors by describing the decision to quit the band when he/she found out that the quality of other players was much better than what he could bring to the band. You know, I'll bet all of us can realte to this in some way. All of us, at one time or another, found ourselves in the position of suddenly being a small fish in a big pond, of finding that everyone around us was at least as smart/strong/quick/attractive/whatever as we were.

Some people react by learning how to swim in the big pond. Some actually become one of the big fish in the big pond. Some opt for a smaller pond. And some leave the pond altogether. The choice that we make, whichever it is, is influenced by the environment, the attributes we believe we bring to the decision, and our psyche. It's different for everyone.

I do not believe that the OP in any way suggested that the proper route for these two young women was do the equivalent of what he did, and quit the team. Seems to me that what he was asking had to do with what causes people to make the decisions they make.

To stifle the person raising the question by suggesting that the only proper answer is to stick it out is, at least, narrow-minded. We can all be thankful for Caroline Doty without demanding that everyone make the same decisions that she has made. What she has done is admirable. I submit that a player who suffers two or three ACLs and concludes that, "I know I cannot play at the level I want to play, so I'm going to do something else," has made a legitimate decision that we might lament, but that none of us, really, has the right to question.

in a nutshell of what most have already said.. they are at UConn they are aware of their options and at this time they are still on the team (happy or not, who knows).

every team in the country has benchwarmers, every team has benchwarmers that can go somewhere else and dominate. no team has 12-15 players playing 20 minutes a game

Why did Symone Roberts go to Providence instead of joining Jen and the Hartford Hawks? She would win a few more games, make all-NEC, get a possible bid to the NCAA tourney... or maybe she enjoys the BE competition.

If you guy knew the "off-court" fun these ladies have you would understand why they are comfortable where they are and its not all about basketball. (and of course , anything can happen at any time)

 

[Cafe Poliziano]

Being just a tad judgmental today, aren't we, folks? I come to this discussion late, but what we have here is a post from someone who raised a legitimate and pretty complex question. Perhaps he or she doesn't know it's been talked about a lot in the past, but no matter. The question relates to how benchwarmers feel if they know it's unlikely they are going to get a lot of playing time and what is it about them that causes them to stick around when they probably could start for some pretty decent teams around the country.

The OP did not do him/herself any favors by describing the decision to quit the band when he/she found out that the quality of other players was much better than what he could bring to the band. You know, I'll bet all of us can realte to this in some way. All of us, at one time or another, found ourselves in the position of suddenly being a small fish in a big pond, of finding that everyone around us was at least as smart/strong/quick/attractive/whatever as we were.

Some people react by learning how to swim in the big pond. Some actually become one of the big fish in the big pond. Some opt for a smaller pond. And some leave the pond altogether. The choice that we make, whichever it is, is influenced by the environment, the attributes we believe we bring to the decision, and our psyche. It's different for everyone.

I do not believe that the OP in any way suggested that the proper route for these two young women was do the equivalent of what he did, and quit the team. Seems to me that what he was asking had to do with what causes people to make the decisions they make.

To stifle the person raising the question by suggesting that the only proper answer is to stick it out is, at least, narrow-minded. We can all be thankful for Caroline Doty without demanding that everyone make the same decisions that she has made. What she has done is admirable. I submit that a player who suffers two or three ACLs and concludes that, "I know I cannot play at the level I want to play, so I'm going to do something else," has made a legitimate decision that we might lament, but that none of us, really, has the right to question.

This board including myself is very judgmental to say the least, some far more than others as is the way with humans. The fun part is watching how intense and indignant certain boarders get over certain topics and some feel they must "protect" team members from any or all statements they disagree with, frankly it is a bit funny to observe this process. I suspect many here have gotten a bit of the whats wrong with this guy when they read my posts and more than once I suspect. As I am want to say "it is all part of growing up and being British" so to speak.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all of you and yours.