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Hurley: Avoid Garbage Parents

Great interview. Hurley has been very vocal about this, and I think it's inspiring to hear how fiercely he works to build and protect the culture of the program. Having grown up in the game his entire life, and having perspectives as a coach's son, a player, a dad, and coach himself, at both high school and collegiate levels, he understands these things as well as anyone.
 
HuskyCLT said:
Dan Hurley's Outlook On Recruiting: Avoid Players With Garbage Parents

Haven’t seen this posted, sorry if it has. Love Hurley calling this out. Lots of talk about getting guys that fit our culture starts here. I think of this when wondering why Hurley hasn’t gone after certain players that make sense on paper. Also no wonder we get so many great UConn moms!
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Thanks for posting. I think that’s the best Hurley interview I’ve ever heard!

Best line…”why would you leave the best program in the country to go somewhere else?”

send this to the UK folks. Lol
 
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It's ironic that I see this post right when I'm watching the end of season 1 of Ted Lasso and Jaime is getting screamed at and slapped by his dad.
Most parents have so much influence on their kids. Working in a school, the kids who need the most discipline usually have either no parental guidance at home or the wrong kind. Smart of Hurley to avoid the headaches. One bad parent can actually completely disrupt the chemistry of a team.
 
Palatine said:
I didn't hear Hurley use the phrase "garbage parents." I think that was just creation of the headline writer.
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Good, I cringed when I saw the headline. Never disrespect people publicly even if its what you
think and its true. Too many headlines to police, but geez, I don't want Hurley to be thought of as someone that said that.
 
great interview, couple things that interested me

1) was talking with Dakich about recruits who want 400,450 thousand from portal, rather than playing for better team with better sets- first ive seen a portal $ amount ceiling-ish number

2)Saying how most teams run same sets, but uconn will be running different sets next yr, optimized for talent.

3) describes losing as "an indescribable level of suffering" lol
 
About a month ago I was about to start a thread (but thought better about it considering the direction some one here could end up leading it) about the great families our players have and how that plays a role in the teamwork we see.

We've seen all of the fantastic things written about Catle's parents and have seen numerous tweets (for at least eight months) from Momma Castle. I remember a couple Karaban articles about his family (both parents relocated for former Soviet Union countries; Belarus & Ukraine) and how his mom needed to be convinced about our academics. I've read a few articles (and heard a couple times from someone who knows of them) about how close Donovan is to his dad.

We've read about Spencer's family and seen Newton's cousins (the Jones twins) at a number of postseason games last year and this year, which normally won't happen withough a pretty tight knit family (seeing how elated TN's mom was when he was announced tournament MOP was additional evidence). The way Donny speaks of Stewart tells me that his family is likely very similar to TN's.

I can't speak a lot about other members of the team (although I don't believe it would be a stretch to assume the Diarra brothers also come from a tightly knit family) but it would not surprise me if each was raised in a close, respectful family.
 
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Hey Adrien! said:
As a teacher, I can totally relate to this.
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As a youth football coach, I can totally relate to this. For some reason, I always get picked by the other coaches to deal with these folks. By the way, I don’t call them “Garbage Parents”…I just think of them as perpetually over involved.
 
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CL82 said:
It was very good. I judge interviews by how often they deviate from standard Coach speak and just drift into actual conversations. This did that a whole lot.
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Agreed. You can tell that Dakich and Dan Hurley knew each other, and Greenberg contributed as well.
One of the better interviews Dan Hurley has done.
 
Hey Adrien! said:
As a teacher, I can totally relate to this.
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I used to tell my kids when they were first starting out playing sports that the biggest indicator of how successful you will be is not how talented you are, how hard you play during games, or even how hard you practice with the team. The biggest indicator is how hard you work on your own. That that is what distinguishes you from the pack. The same is true with academics, or any other venture in life.
 
Good interview. Hurley is a couple years off on Tate George - he started at UConn in 1986, not '89, and played on the NIT championship team. His last moment as a Husky was the close call almost stealing the ball at the end of the Duke game, which was his senior year. I think he's the only player I actually met while I was up at UConn - he was friends with a girl in my dorm.

But it goes to show you, people who weren't invested in UConn didn't really notice the program until the Dream Season. For a guy like Hurley, the NIT title didn't move the needle. Then again, Seton Hall was a juggernaut at that time, and we were just hoping to get to that level.
 
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Deion Sanders said mostly the same thing about recruiting QB's.
Better come from a stable home.
 
Spaceman213J said:
It's ironic that I see this post right when I'm watching the end of season 1 of Ted Lasso and Jaime is getting screamed at and slapped by his dad.
Most parents have so much influence on their kids. Working in a school, the kids who need the most discipline usually have either no parental guidance at home or the wrong kind. Smart of Hurley to avoid the headaches. One bad parent can actually completely disrupt the chemistry of a team.
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We saw that in our recent history. Vance Jackson's father made it hard to build a team because his son ended up wanting to pick his own role rather than implement KO's vision. And Oriakhi's father whining in his ear all of the 11-12 season didn't help (although an unhappy parent is nowhere near the problem that a parent who thinks he is entitled to coach the team is).
 
Chin Diesel said:
Deion Sanders said mostly the same thing about recruiting QB's.
Better come from a stable home.
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There's clearly a type of kid Hurley looks for and gets. He's always talking about fit and the parents. He's always talking about not being soft and having old school values.
 
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HailUConn said:
this photo says it all. Castle sought his parents out and hugged them right after they won NC.

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Great video.

You can see how emotional Stephon was; all the hard work he's probably endured has paid off.


I'm sure, he's has one more huge moment coming up!


He will represent our program well in the future.
 
This makes a lot of sense too when you think about what this coaching staff asks of players: work your butt off, never take a play off, sacrifice for the team, pass up shots to give your teammates better shots, etc.

I’m sure that’s a big change for players and can be frustrating at times, especially when the gameplan over a 2-3 game stretch leads to shots flowing to other guys.

So when player calls his parents and is frustrated (bc I’m sure it is TOUGH to practice and play under Hurley), Hurley wants parents who are going to say “listen to your coach!” Not parents who are going to say: “you’re the best player on that team, Hurley is crazy for not seeing that!” etc.

Basically he wants parents who will be an extension of the coaching staff and who his players can look to for support — not parents who are going to undermine the efforts of the coaching staff.

This really goes to Hurley’s laser focus on how a player will function as part of his team vs just how good the player is.
 
Stinger92860 said:
Sometimes it’s the coaches at lower levels who have an agenda or just are not nice.
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I haven’t run into that. (Much) The guys I coach with and the coaches I’ve met from other teams are in it for the kids. I know those kind of guys exist, but as a kid my experiences were great and as an adult we try to pass that along. We try to be as kind as possible to the parents, even the over involved ones. After all, they trust us with their kids. We do a weekly newsletter during the season that keeps everyone involved. That helps. I’ve been doing it long enough that I remember the days when it had to be printed and distributed after practice.
 
That was, indeed, a great interview. I'm finding that usually the interviews with other coaches are the most informative.

Now, here's my completely left field take: With all the abuse he takes on here, I'm happy to be assured that Nick Timberlake has good parents to fall back on.

Given Dan Hurley wouldn't have gone after NT otherwise, that tells me the kid probably has the fortitude to turn it around.

We're gonna face KU in next year's tourney ;)
 
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