Look at ND's closest games this season
19 point win over #25 Michigan State (who also has 8 losses)
22 point win over unranked Pennsylvania
16 point win over unranked Depaul
10 point win over #11 PSU (Remember, UCONN beat them without KML and Tuck)
12 point win over unranked Oregon State
7 point win over unranked Virginia
4 point win over #9 Maryland (again, UCONN beat them without KML and Tuck)
Consecutive 21 point wins over #5 Duke and Florida State
Compare that to UCONN, some identical teams played
19 point win over #5 Stanford
17 point win over #9 Maryland
19 point win over #11 PSU
21 point win over tOSU
22 point win over #5 Duke
11 point win over #6 Baylor
17 point win over #3 Louisville
Even without KML and Morgan, UCONN fared better against PSU and Maryland than ND did. ND had a fairly close game against 2 unranked teams - Virginia and Oregon State. It's not like I'm only comparing one game. If you look at the performances against identical, and even similar teams (for example UCONN's 33 point win over #21 Cal vs. ND's 19 point win over #25 Michigan State), and the games against Penn State and Maryland, UCONN has been more dominant by a very wide margin.
I am not saying ND isn't good or can't beat UCONN. But I think some people are actually discounting how good UCONN is. Stokes is far and away the best forward off the bench in the nation. Banks, when healthy, is one of the better guards off the bench in the nation. Chong, while just a freshman who has seemingly hit the freshman wall, has the potential to be a solid reserve if she can push thru the freshman blues. I get the inclination to give ND a lot of credit. I don't get the comments that somehow UCONN is not as good as they actually are.
I think you're over analyzing these margins of victory. For example, the Baylor game felt closer than an 11 point win, while the Louisville win could have easily been 30 points. I don't discredit your argument that UCONN has been more dominant than Notre Dame, they have been, but historically Connecticut is almost always the most dominant team in the country whether they win the championship or not. They have been #1 in margin of victory for the last 6 seasons (not including this season) and consistently demolish teams they are better than.
Something that distinguishes Connecticut from pretty much any other program is that UCONN almost never plays down to their opponents level of play. UCONN doesn't have 'bad losses.' Aside from their slip up against St. Johns in 2012, I don't think UCONN has suffered a bad loss since 2005. UCONN has been the model of consistency and always brings their A game.
Baylor, Tennessee, Stanford, Notre Dame...all of these programs have had multiple seasons the last 5-10 years where they were legitimate championship contenders or won a title. However, in each of these seasons, they have had games that were closer than they should have been, or they lost to a team they should have beat. That said, these schools were also able to elevate their level of play against other top teams and could come out with a victory or compete with virtually any team in the nation. I think 2014 Notre Dame falls into this category. Yes, they probably should have beat Virginia by more than 7, and the game against Oregon State should not have been close in the 2nd half, but they have also had moments of brilliance this season. They demolished Duke by 21 on the road, handily beat Tennessee on the road after a rough start, and easily beat Penn State on the road in a game that was never in question. Notre Dame may not blow out everyone in the fashion that Connecticut does, but I think they have the talent and coaching to compete with Connecticut and make it a very interesting title game.
I don't discredit how good Connecticut is. The fact that they've demolished everyone in their path has been remarkable. When you have fans worried about only beating a top 5 team by 17 points...you're clearly having an incredible season. Aside from Notre Dame, I don't think anyone stands a chance against Connecticut.