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Message: [QUOTE="dennismenace, post: 4312565, member: 6158"] This made me laugh recalling the problem I had with shades that were spring loaded. I was reminded as a youngster not to pull down too far or the shade wouldn't work and it could be broken (not go back up). I became so tentative in pulling it when trying to raise it back up that it kept getting further and further down (opposite direction) until it no longer sprang back. My wife said "just grab it and give it a quick yank (meaning stop thinking too much) and expect it to spring upwards". It worked!!!! Now every time I open one I think of how much that used to bother me and it makes me laugh. I have very little natural mechanical ability or perhaps I tend to just overthink some things that are really kind of simple. LOL. If you are worried about misspeaking you probably will. If what you are going to say ahead of time is good in your mind then just say it and never mind what the audience is thinking. Say what you mean and mean what you say. My friend had a word of advice for me about that which he used as a motto: "It's none of my business what other people are thinking when I am speaking (or any other time)" In other words be confident in your message; you can't control other peoples thoughts. Also, there are some very helpful things online to help with public speaking. One of them is to speak publicly as often as possible. The more you do it the less self conscious you become. Also, it helps to know that most of your audience is rooting for you not to mess up and do something that would make you feel uncomfortable. Audiences mostly are pretty sympathetic toward a speaker that way. On the other hand, I know someone who was a CEO in a large company and had to speak all the time on behalf of his company all over the world. He was traveling to Japan one time and his wife was concerned about his preparation for his talk. His preparation amounted to writing three brief words on a cocktail napkin on the plane! His wife was horrified. The speech came off fine and was well received. He explained to her that he couldn't speak well from detailed prepared documents. In his case he had such a command of the knowledge of what he wanted to convey that he wasn't concerned with style so much as communicating with his audience which he did by eye contact and focusing on them to get his points across. [/QUOTE]

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