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Message: [QUOTE="ctchamps, post: 4562834, member: 37"] And hopefully there won't be a situation in which that happens for the remainder of this season. I made a generic post in this thread choosing not to target anyone. I only chose to target one individual all season because I felt there might be a modicum of hope that individual might think about how he presented his opinion regarding Andre. Most of us don't want to be lectured. We've already escaped parenting once when we went through adolescence. Once upon a time in this forum I would approach certain individuals whom I felt were basically reasonable and spend a lot of time offering advice on better or worse approaches to critiquing. They were people who I felt were not overly sensitive because I didn't want to embarrass anyone. I rarely challenged them and I never demeaned them. It allowed for others to observe and get something out of it as well. This forum was still small back then and I felt that it could easily implode if someone didn't try to elevate the group. As it was we lost some good posters in spite of my efforts. My philosophy is censorship should rarely be employed. Repressing anger and using authority to not let people be heard does not allow someone to realize there could be a better way to go through life and decide if they should begin to work on it. I made it clear I faced the same or similar challenges daily and appreciated, although not always immediately, when someone would help guide me. It was exhausting work even though it was second nature to me. This forum is now much larger and there is a great nucleus of informative individuals who offer their knowledge to those of us who are less knowledgeable. It is no longer as vulnerable. That plus after decades of mediating and supporting individuals I've reached a point in life that I feel I can just enjoy things and no longer be the adult in the room. Best advice I can give you is to recognize that for most of us change is difficult. It's easier for us to see the flaws in others and insist they change than to look in the mirror and recognize that we're often asking others to change because we are unwilling or unable to do so ourselves. The best thing you could do, given that you are sensitive and aware of behaviors that are non productive and demeaning is to reduce your sensitivity to it and just be a model in how you post. There are several individuals who do this. Two that come to mind are [USER=5787]@Hey Adrien![/USER] and [USER=1329]@auror[/USER]. [/QUOTE]

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