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Message: [QUOTE="superjohn, post: 5286151, member: 1522"] It's weird how people process this stuff. I was a mess when my dad died, he wasn't only my dad he was my best friend. I got to be with him his final week or so and we were all there with him around his own bed as hospice helped him go comfortably which was a blessing... I cried uncontrollably around that period of time while my mom was pretty stoic. I remember weeks after his death I was out for the evening having drinks and I started hyperventilating/having a panic attack thinking about his passing. That whole year was difficult for me. It was obviously extremely difficult for my mom but she didn't really show it with outward emotion. My mom is so broken up about her cat that I flew home to be with her. She thought he was just getting a routine surgery (the cost of which is crazy) and then was blindsided by the cancer news. The Newtown vet clinic seems to be really good and they basically told her there was no use in fighting the lymphoma so she's just going to love him and keep him as comfortable as possible at home until the end. The cat can't really express his pain so she doesn't want to put him through chemo when the vet flat out told her he only has a 50% chance of 6-9 more months with the chemo treatment. If they told her it would prolong his life a couple more good years she would do it. He's eating a lot, still gets excited about all his treats. He's jumping on his favorite chairs and the bed now which he's not supposed to but his surgery stitches are internal so we're just letting him do that because the alternative is keeping him in the bathroom which wouldn't be fair to him. His tail is up, he still got by me when I opened the door this morning to put him in his carrier bag and he sprinted down the stairs so he seems his old self at the moment. My mom will turn 81 in August and she is so attached to the cat that she wouldn't even leave him for a night for close to the 4 years she's had him. News he doesn't have much time left stinks but she'll again be able to travel to see friends out of state, visit me in Chicago. Take a couple of big vacation trips if she wants to. Also my mom had terrible back and hip pain for about a year where she was using a walker and a cane, the cat got her through that with a little help from me and my brother. She's pretty much pain free now, waking freely again, doing pilates... The cat has been her life for these 4 years which has been great for her and the cat but her attachment to him may not have been the most healthy thing in the world. Like with most things there's a flip side to it. [/QUOTE]

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