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Message: [QUOTE="tomcat, post: 2573124, member: 961"] It's a shame when something like this happens. Someone comes on the board after watching for a while and ventures an opinion and feels like he/she got shut down by BY experts. So I went back and looked at what the OP posted in the thread he was talking about. I read the posts that followed, and believe that of all of them, one was aggressive and could be viewed as being written in an arrogant way. Now, I say this as someone who has posted a few times on this board over the years and who is sensitive to how people take my remarks. So I have the following suggestions. First, to the OP, may I suggest that the give and take on this board is lively, and when you come in with a minority opinion (which yours was, no doubt), expect to be challenged. People on this board, like you, love their UConn WCBB and have opinions held at least as strongly as you. I saw several cases of people acknowledging the points you were making before disagreeing with one or more other points. That's not arrogant. It's respectful. As a new board member (assuming you want to continue here) take comfort in the fact that your post got lots of response and people took you seriously. That is a great start, and welcome to the Board. For the one poster who responded aggressively (I would have been offended by the way you said things, too), you might want to go a little easy on newbies. I am not going to name the person I think was offensive (first because it's only my opinion and second, because it might be regarded as calling out an individual, which is against the rules and I don't want to do), but here's a suggestion. When you start a post with the words "Sorry, but....." basically you are saying you are not sorry. You are saying that whatever follows is going to be in complete disagreement with the OP and that you've basically dismissed that person's opinion as insignificant. It does not matter whether you are right (which I think you probably were). The "Sorry, but..." adds a level of snark that, whether intentional or not, will almost always get someone's feathers up. Just something to think about. [/QUOTE]

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